Jaime asks… what does the ideal woman look like?
Posted on Jun 14, 2012 in Features
I was recently reading Tina Fey’s book “Bossypants” and came across this quote:
“Now every girl is expected to have Caucasian blue eyes, full Spanish lips, a classic button nose, hairless Asian skin with a California tan, a Jamaican dance hall ass, long Swedish legs, small Japanese feet, the abs of a lesbian gym owner, the hips of a nine-year-old boy, the arms of Michelle Obama, and doll tits. The person closest to actually achieving this look is Kim Kardashian, who, as we know, was made by Russian scientists to sabotage our athletes.”
It kind of hit home for me, because earlier that day, I was looking at (okay, stalking) some of my friends’ Facebook profile pictures and envying their awesome bodies or perfect hair. It seems like we all want what we can’t have. For example, I’d love to look like Megan Fox, but that would cost me a bazillion dollars and it would probably hurt. What we sometimes fail to realize is that those people have insecurities too. Maybe they’re looking at your amazing hazel eyes (you know, the ones you’d give anything to change to blue) and wishing they had your color.
One of my guy friends recently said to me, “Every woman is beautiful…I honestly believe that.” I laughed at him at first, but it’s absolutely true. Maybe they’re not beautiful in regards to societal pressures and expectations, but everyone has something unique about them. So what I challenge you to do is to stop saying you feel like a beached whale because you ate a brownie. Stop hating on yourself.
If you want to change something, change it for you. Don’t change it to get a guy’s attention or to look like your friend, do it because you want to. It’s important to remember that no one is perfect and if you can’t love yourself, no one else can either.